Wifely Musings- The beginning

This is where I'm at....being a wife.  I am 100% committed to being the best one I can be from this day forward. That doesn't mean I'm going to get it right every time.  Ahem...I am human, after all.


What I do want to start contemplating is how I can be a better one.  In a age of feminism and "girl power", I am drawn to the older ideals of wifedom.....I look to Proverbs 31 as my guide.  That woman was amazing, btw, and I'm not sure I'll ever measure up there, but what I can do is be the best wife that I possibly can and be obedient to the Word of God.


I really need to speak my peace here.  My first piece of advice to every spouse out there is stop with the poking fun of men/women all in the name of "fun".  The wife and husband jokes are so degrading.  I think men really enjoy the old "ball and chain" sentiments, but I find them offensive and so does my husband.  Now I'm speaking to wives.  I cannot tell you how many tears I've cried when I see a woman publicly belittle her husband.  I'm not talking about confiding in a friend, but Facebook and the likes...."typical man" type comments and just general rants about what a "bleepity bleep" that husband is at the moment. WOW!  Seriously?  Grief beyond grief fills my heart.  


I am a part of several marriage groups on Facebook, one of which is "Marriage Today", a favorite of both Greg and me.  The other day they made a suggestion to tell your wife how beautiful she is and for wives to tell their men how much they admire them.  One man mentioned that his wife has never done that, ever.  I didn't know this man, but suddenly my heart was so heavy for him.


The greatest need that most men have is to be honored and respected.  Yes, even before sex, surprise huh?  Men have this inbred desire to be "the man".  God made them this way....they are the protectors, the leaders and they need to know their wives value them greatly.  


I know the argument.....but my husband doesn't deserve to be respected and honored.  My husband doesn't treat me well, my husband isn't this, my husband isn't that.....  If your husband is abusive, then by all means, GET OUT of that relationship.  That is NOT a man that deserves praise.  We're not talking about that issue right now.  The average husband has to have even one quality that you like.  Does he work hard, is he a good father, does he fix things, is he kind and generous?  I know that some wives have a hard time finding something about their husbands that they like.  If that is the case, then let me suggest that you start with one simple thing.  Stop making fun of him.  Stop putting him down.  Stop complaining about every single thing he does wrong.  Take ONE day and just be his wife without any strings attached.  Take one day and speak LIFE into your marriage.  


Jimmy Evans, founder of the Marriage Today ministry, once said something at a conference that I will never forget.  He said that even if you are the ONLY one working on your marriage, keep working.  Keep speaking positive words, keep doing things for your spouse, keep praying for that change, even if you are doing it by yourself.  I know that sounds like a daunting task, but there is one that can help.  You must look to Yeshua (Jesus) for your strength.  I am a walking testimony of how taking those steps to be a better wife will in turn create amazing changes in your husband.  Keep pressing forward, my friends. 


Proverbs 31: 10-12 says 
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
      She is more precious than rubies.
  Her husband can trust her,
      and she will greatly enrich his life.
  She brings him good, not harm,
      all the days of her life.

I want to challenge my fellow wives to start speaking life into your marriage.  There is no condemnation here, only love for you and a desire to help every wife reading this to be a blessing.  



Today is my beloved husband's birthday, btw.  I am honored to be his wife and besides my Savior, he is the love of my life!